There lie so many emotions and thoughts behind "I’m fine", so much of holding up behind the smile. Hence, most of us reach out for help at our breaking point.

Can Counseling help with a difficult childhood where the parents, peers, close ones didn’t quite understand you and let you down?

Can it help us move on after the first relationship fails to deliver what it promised to? When we feel love has evaded us and loneliness has crept in.

When it’s difficult to trust a significant other or a spouse, can a counselor help us understand why and how of our feelings?

Or when you fail to trust yourself to deliver your best at work, relationship or family and overwhelmed while managing all? The guilt of “not doing much” has hit you hard.

Can it help you make tough decisions when there seems to be a rift between how you feel and what you believe? Or say live with those decisions that didn't quite go well?

Just in case you are wondering, the answer to all of the above is YES.

In psychotherapy, we untangle the complex thinking patterns and biases that we develop over time naturally. To quote a few,

Bottled up past hurt can be the cause of unusual anger

Unmet expectations can cause biases leading to a distorted pattern of decision making

Absence of communication and presence of assumptions can complicate a relationship.

In a relationship romance, affection and love is a part of it so do conflict, disagreements and arguments.

Conflict within a relationship is normally seen as a sign of trouble, however, it is normal to have arguments once in a while and learn to solve the matters together by working constructively as a duo because at the end of the day a relationship is a company. Here is some most common conflict resolution that you should add in your lifestyle.

1. Us vs We – Using more of ‘we’ & ‘us’ statements rather than ‘me’ & ‘you’ statements conveys that both the individuals are on the same side. It helps to nurture a relationship even if there are disagreements.

2. Previous Baggage – Do not bring up past issues while discussing a present area of concern- Focus on the issue at hand and resolving it.

3. Gestures – Our non-verbal and verbal gestures do play an important role when we are trying to resolve a conflict, use them.
See n the eyes of partner while talking rather than showing your back towards them.

4. Focus on the matter rather than criticising – These statements give the impression that we are working towards fostering harmony and love in the bond rather than attacking our partner.

5. Keeping anger in check while Arguing – Anger or frustration take over when a couple is in an argument. Take a break and pacify themselves down and then address the matter again with peaceful intentions.

Hope all these points help you resolve the conflicts. If you need help then you can look for expert guidance. Try relationship counselling or marriage counseling and give your marriage a new life.

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Some people come into our lives for teach us a lesson.

Some Simple ways of move on peacefully from past relationship

Accept it that relationship has come to an end.

This is the hardest step in letting go of a past relationship. Mindfulness-based meditation could be helpful.

Take your time to process the pain

If you are a more sensitive person than this may be a good time to seek out a counselor or psychologist that can support you to sort out remaining wounds from past relationships.

Don’t make plans of revenge.

No one wins in the game of revenge. Trying to hurt another because you are upset is waste of time.

After Breakup don’t maintain an intimate relationship.

This seems obvious to some, but for many this can easily become a pattern. Someone breaks your hearts, and you agree to continued intimacy after they’ve rejected you as a partner. This is unfair.

Don’t rush yourself into another relationship.

Some might try to replace the last relationship as soon as possible to avoid loneliness, feeling loss, or any pain. This is unfair.

Remove their photographs, gifts and love letters.

If a temptation or the person was particularly toxic, you may want to burn the treasures as a symbolic way of releasing all of the negative energy.

Hope this will help you!