For many us being locked up with our partner and working from home together is a novel situation may trigger up a variety of emotions. It is a comfy break for some couples as they have a chance to spend more quality couple time which was interrupted by daily tasks, responsibilities, long office hours, parenting etc.

Now that we are spending all the time with our partner, how do we set apart various aspects like our office work, relationship and me-time?

Follow these Rituals to Survive Transitions

Rituals bring a sense of security, stability and familiarity specifically for those who are creatures of habits and feel overwhelmed in uncertainty and chaos. For couples, these rituals can help them form a structure to their daily routines as couples and as working professionals during this lockdown.

·         Wake up at the same routine

·         Transition to work-  have separate workstations, check-in with each other when you have  breaks, have a meal together

·         Have me-time as prioritizing alone time helps to fill and recharge ourselves so that we can give our best to our work and family.

·         Have date nights at home or through a video call.

·         Have your meals without screens.

·         State of the Union meeting (A term coined by relationship expert Dr Gottman) once a week meeting to discuss frustration, stressors, challenges with a partner.

·         Fun couple activities like playing the card game, a board game, watching a movie or series together

·         Stick to sleep routine.

The couples who relied on the emotional distance and space they are used to can have more tough times. A lot of couples could be escaping from taking a look at the cracks in their relationship. While in lockdown, in China, the number of domestic violence cases reported to the local police increased significantly in February, as being forced to stay together in limited spaces might bring up-

·         Cannot encounter relationship challenges under the carpet

·         Triggers

·         Unsolved emotional wounds

·         Feeling stuck

·         Abusive/emotionally negligent relationships might intensify to become more unstable and volatile

If both partners are emotionally approachable, taking the time out to opening up the can of worms can help their relationship

Seek the help of loved ones, neighbours, therapists, relationship counselling or abuse helplines for support and relief in cases of unhealthy relationships.

Some people come into our lives for teach us a lesson.

Some Simple ways of move on peacefully from past relationship

Accept it that relationship has come to an end.

This is the hardest step in letting go of a past relationship. Mindfulness-based meditation could be helpful.

Take your time to process the pain

If you are a more sensitive person than this may be a good time to seek out a counselor or psychologist that can support you to sort out remaining wounds from past relationships.

Don’t make plans of revenge.

No one wins in the game of revenge. Trying to hurt another because you are upset is waste of time.

After Breakup don’t maintain an intimate relationship.

This seems obvious to some, but for many this can easily become a pattern. Someone breaks your hearts, and you agree to continued intimacy after they’ve rejected you as a partner. This is unfair.

Don’t rush yourself into another relationship.

Some might try to replace the last relationship as soon as possible to avoid loneliness, feeling loss, or any pain. This is unfair.

Remove their photographs, gifts and love letters.

If a temptation or the person was particularly toxic, you may want to burn the treasures as a symbolic way of releasing all of the negative energy.

Hope this will help you!