According to a family and marriage therapist – A true
relationship is created on trust, respect and equality, a marriage and family
therapist. Where partners can easily share what they need and how they feel.
They share a deep bond of security and protection. They
always have each other’s backs. Throughout the worst times—from feeling sick,
to grieve about terrible loss, they both are there to support each other’s
sides.
According to a family marriage therapist- in a true
relationship one where can feel free to be yourself. Feel accepted, connected,
wanted and cherished. And you make your partner feel the same.
A meaningful relationship does not just happen simply.
Sometimes, the ingredients required are already there. But generally, they make
meaning, independently as individuals by making it assured we are being clear,
thoughtful and compassionate; and as a couple together giving priority to the
relationship with constructive communication and fighting fair.
In different words, if you want to know how couples can
create and cultivate meaningful relationships, find the tips below:
Make conflict Nonviolent – A very common mistaken belief
is that fights are a sign that you are not in a good relationship. Though, it
is the opposite that relationships that do not have fights and conflict usually
have years of rejection of their needs and pushing everything under the mat.
In a healthy and meaningful relationship, both partners
navigate conflict constructively. But that does not mean cursing, yelling,
blaming your partner or getting defensive. But it means to be present and
available to your partner. This means acknowledging the pain of your partner
and comforting them.
Experts suggest that conflict between partners is an
opportunity to make your bond stronger. When a partner tells another about the
insecurities they have like I feel that I don’t matter to you anymore, then
another one should apologise and explain their importance by taking
advantage of this opportunity.
Explore your Role - Many people try to run away from
conflicts by thinking that how terrible, offensive their partner is and how
poorly they behaved.
Instead, thinking that, try to put the spotlight on yourself.
Because chances are that you also did not behave that great. For example, one
may ask themselves such questions as how could they have handled it
differently or could have contained themself better, or have controlled
themself differently. How things could have been said more relationally or
respectfully.
If couples realize their behavioural offences and
their role, they will start finding themselves in a meaningful relationship.
Listen with your full heart - Meaningful relationships
require emotional support from each other. Listen to what your partner wants and
be honest and curious about how they feel and what they think. This is not
always good to prove a point or to be right. When it comes to listening, listen
with the intention of understanding where it coming from, and set aside your
agenda.
Probing is good in a relationship to understand what
makes them feel that they don’t matter. Understand well and clear the
misunderstanding.
Talk your heart out -Be vulnerable, especially at the
time of conflict. It may mean saying that you are hurt right now and
apologize that you were not there for them when they were alone. Assure them
that you want to fix this and will work together with them. If there is a lack of trust then you can ask a close friend or relative to mediate or for a non-biased approach take the help of relationship counselling.
Provide a roadmap. To have a meaningful relationship with
your partner you need to be transparent and specific about your needs. Tell
your partner what comforts you and what can make you feel comfortable when you
feel insecure.
It may be the case, that you do not know, that your needs
are the priority for your partner. Lots of people do not. This is why it is suggested to
check in with yourself and identify what you want or what you need and
express to your partner. Because until you do not know, what are your needs and
desires are, you can’t expect your partner to know.
Again, meaningful relationships are those that are
sincere, safe and honest. Partners are genuine and vulnerable with one another.
They empathize and work over the conflict, and use it to give a boost to their
strong bond.
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