Needs act as the bedrock in deciding where we place ourselves, what and who we choose for ourselves and how we maintain an equilibrium.
Just like Maslow explained the hierarchy of needs to grow and evolve as individuals, these are applicable in terms of our relationships too.
Physiological Needs- financial stress like insurmountable debts or dissatisfied sex life cripples a romantic relationship. A partner would run out of any resources to meet the emotional needs of themselves or their partners.
Safety Needs - Past experience of abuse will constantly send you signals that the world is not a safe place to be. Or, if you have struggled as a child for the basic warmth, love, affection, and attention, you may exhibit and reflect the same pattern in your future relationships by becoming too needy or too distant.
Conversely, you may not feel safe with your partner to express your vulnerabilities. This could be due to your partner avoiding conflict, shutting off themselves or making you feel unattended with your feelings. Thus making your relationship inauthentic and stressful.
Love and belongingness- It is about placing your relationship in public or within your community. If a partner fails to feel supported or acknowledged within the community (read- inlaws/extended family) there could arise conflicts in the relationship.
Esteem- When one partner has low self image, they may end up with insecurities - real or imagined. This could bring jealousy or unhealthy conflict-management in the relationship.
Self Actualization- When partners accept each other how they are and are ready to do self-work it unleashes the potential for the healthiest form of relationships. There are fewer taunts and more empathy.
Just like Maslow explained the hierarchy of needs to grow and evolve as individuals, these are applicable in terms of our relationships too.
Physiological Needs- financial stress like insurmountable debts or dissatisfied sex life cripples a romantic relationship. A partner would run out of any resources to meet the emotional needs of themselves or their partners.
Safety Needs - Past experience of abuse will constantly send you signals that the world is not a safe place to be. Or, if you have struggled as a child for the basic warmth, love, affection, and attention, you may exhibit and reflect the same pattern in your future relationships by becoming too needy or too distant.
Conversely, you may not feel safe with your partner to express your vulnerabilities. This could be due to your partner avoiding conflict, shutting off themselves or making you feel unattended with your feelings. Thus making your relationship inauthentic and stressful.
Love and belongingness- It is about placing your relationship in public or within your community. If a partner fails to feel supported or acknowledged within the community (read- inlaws/extended family) there could arise conflicts in the relationship.
Esteem- When one partner has low self image, they may end up with insecurities - real or imagined. This could bring jealousy or unhealthy conflict-management in the relationship.
Self Actualization- When partners accept each other how they are and are ready to do self-work it unleashes the potential for the healthiest form of relationships. There are fewer taunts and more empathy.
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